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Who should pay for the first date? The majority says it’s the guy’s responsibility. A survey released this month found that about 77 percent of people in heterosexual relationships believe men should settle the bill on the first date. The survey was put together by US financial website NerdWallet. The site polled roughly 1,000 Americans who had been dating their partners for six months or more.第一次约会该由谁买单?多数人认为这是男士的责任。本月初,美国财经网站NerdWallet公布了一项针对近1000名交往6个月及以上情侣的调查结果。数据显示,77%(异性恋)受访者认为应该由男士来买单。The financial chivalry began when, in the past, women had no access to employment and therefore couldn’t fend themselves financially. But nowadays, more and more women have become the bwinners. According to The Atlantic, between 1960 and 2011 in the US, the proportion of two-parent US households in which the mother earned all or most of the income roughly quadrupled.过去,这种勇于付款的“骑士精神”是因为女性没有工作,不能经济独立。但现如今,越来越多的女性都成为养家糊口的主力军,据美国《大西洋月刊》报道,从1960年到2011年,美国双亲家庭中母亲是家中主要或全部经济来源的家庭所占比例几乎翻了两番。So why, amid economic changes and gender equity advancements, are men still expected to pay for the bill?那么,在经济变革、两性更加平等的今天,为什么依旧应该由男士来买单呢?“As social roles start to change, people often embrace the changes that make their lives easier, but resist the changes that make their lives more difficult,” David Frederick, a professor of psychology at Chapman University, US, told The Huffington Post. “Who pays for dates … is one arena where women may be resisting gender changes more than men,” he suggested.美国柴普曼大学心理学教授大卫#8226;弗里德瑞克在接受《赫芬顿邮报》采访时表示,“在社会角色开始发生变化时,人们往往愿意接受那些使生活更容易的变化,排斥令生活更麻烦的变化。而谁来买单的问题?(在这个问题上)女性比男性更抗拒性别角色的变化。”Men pay more男士付得多Frederick is a co-author of a study released last year that also found men tend to pay for dates. The study was larger than NerdWallet’s and polled about 17,000 people, according to The Atlantic. The study also found 39 percent of its female respondents admitted that they hoped men would reject their offers to help pay. Frederick and his colleagues called paying for dates “a rare case” in which women are motivated not to fight old-school gender dynamics. In the same way, men who are no longer bwinners aren’t as eager to take up domestic responsibilities such as parenting and homemaking.弗里德瑞克教授去年与别人共同进行的一项研究发现,男士依旧是约会买单的主力。《大西洋月刊》报道称,这项调查的规模比NerdWallet网站的还大,约17000人参与了调查。数据显示,39%女性受访者承认就算自己提出买单要求,内心仍希望男士抢着付钱。弗里德瑞克教授和他的同事们认为,这是女性不抵触传统性别角色的“特例”。与之类似的还有,男士虽然不再独挑养家糊口的重担,却仍不愿承担教育小孩、操持家务等家庭责任。Many people would argue men’s paying for dates is a form of respecting women. But Joe Pinsker, writing in The Atlantic, says this seemingly “benevolent” form of sexism can lead to a sense of entitlement on men’s part — they tend to think that women owe them because they have paid.不少人认为男士在约会时买单是一种对女性的尊重。但乔#8226;皮斯科在美国《大西洋月刊》上撰文称,这种看似“善意”的大男子主义会让男人感觉自己拥有更多权利——他们为约会买单,因此认为女性对他们有所亏欠。Money can twist men’s opinion of sexual consent. Pinsker cites a 2010 study published in the Journal of Interpersonal Violence. It found that men were more likely than women to think that sex should be expected when a man pays for an expensive date.此外,付钱还会让男性将其误解为允许发生性关系的许可。皮斯科还援引了一份2010年发表于《人际暴力杂志》的调查,其结果显示,在为昂贵的约会买单后,男性比女性更容易认为将与对方发生关系。This really is disturbing. But Frederick found something optimistic in his study that might serve as a warning to some women. Almost half of the men surveyed in the study he co-authored said that they would break up with a woman if she never offered to help pay the bill on a date. “In this single telling finding about dating and paying interactions, we see evidence of a sea change,” Frederick wrote.这确实让人感到不安,但弗里德瑞克教授在他的研究中也发现了一些好消息,供一些女士参考:调查中,几乎一半男性都表示如果约会对象从未有过要买单的意思,他们会选择分手。弗里德瑞克教授说,“从这一结果可以看出,在约会与买单的互动关系上,我们可以看到巨大的不同。” /201410/335410

The B visits New York#39;s Chinatown for the new year celebrations to see how the community is changing为进一步了解美国华人群体的变化,英国广播公司探访了纽约唐人街的新年庆祝活动。Chinatowns are a feature of many US cities, but some of the best known are succumbing to gentrification, campaigners say. Even one of the largest and most vibrant, in Manhattan, is slowly being invaded by luxury shops and apartment buildings.唐人街是众多美国城市的一个特点,但社会活动家称,一些最有名的唐人街正不得不顺应社区高档化(即贵族化)趋势的发展。甚至其中最大和最有活力的曼哈顿唐人街也正在逐渐被豪华商店和公寓楼所侵蚀。It#39;s late afternoon and Mei Rong Song is serving a few last customers in Lao San Snack on East Broadway. Giant metal pots steam behind a counter stacked with metal trays of pig#39;s blood, heart and intestines. Mei has run her restaurant for a decade, catering to a wave of immigrants who began arriving in the 1980s from Fuzhou in south-eastern China.傍晚,在东百老汇的“老三小吃”,梅荣松(音译)正在为最后几名用餐的顾务。柜台上堆放着盛着猪血、猪心、猪肠的金属托盘,后面巨大的金属蒸笼正煮着(食物)。梅的餐厅已经开了十年,用餐顾客主要是20世纪80年代开始移民过来的一波来自中国东南部福州地区的移民。But high rents have been pushing Chinese immigrants out of the area, their place taken by wealthier white tenants.但高昂的租金使得中国移民逐渐退出该地区,富裕的白人接手这些地方取而代之。;My shop has Fuzhou speciality foods, and as Fuzhounese people stop living in this neighbourhood there#39;s less and less demand for what I sell,; she says. ; I don#39;t know that I can stay for more than a year or two.;“我的店供应福州特色食品,但随着这一街区的福州人逐渐搬迁,我店里的顾客也越来越少。”她说道,“我不知道我还能在这待一年多还是两年。”Rapid immigration led to the formation of US Chinatowns in the late 19th Century, though a long period of exclusion and discrimination for the Chinese began around the same time. The next large wave of arrivals followed the 1965 Immigration Act, but in recent decades older Chinatowns have shrunk.19世纪后期,频繁的中国移民使美国形成了唐人街,尽管华人从一开始就遭受了长期的排挤和歧视。随着1965年移民法案的颁布,一的中国移民接踵而来。但近几十年来旧的唐人街却在收缩。;Chinatowns are turning into a sanitised ethnic playground for the rich to satisfy their exotic appetite for a dim sum and fortune cookie fix,; says Andrew Leong, one of the authors of a recent report that charted gentrification in New York, Boston and Philadelphia#39;s Chinatowns.“唐人街正在变成一个供富人为满足异域胃口而猎奇中国点心和签饼(美国的中国餐馆特有的折叠形小饼,内藏有预测运气话语的纸条)的清洗改造过的异域情调场所。”Andrew Leong如是说。后者近期参与撰写了一份描述了纽约、波士顿、费城等地唐人街所在区域高档化(贵族化)现象的报告。Washington DC#39;s version is little more than a collection of Chinese restaurants, gift shops and an ornate arch.(这一高档化现象在)华盛顿地区所呈现出来的版本(使该地区唐人街看上去就)是一个中国餐馆、礼品商店和华丽拱门的集合体。This is partly a result of the success of Chinese immigrant families. Many of those from Manhattan#39;s Chinatown have moved to younger Chinese neighbourhoods in Flushing, Queens and Brooklyn#39;s Sunset Park.(之所以出现这种现象)有部分原因是中国移民家庭(在美国)获得了成功。他们中的许多人已经从自曼哈顿唐人街搬到了法拉盛、皇后区和布鲁克林区日落公园的年轻华人街区。But up to now, new arrivals in New York have always taken their place.但是直到现在,纽约的新华人移民始终在接替他们(已搬走的华人)的位置。Thousands of working-class families still live in Chinatown#39;s humble tenement buildings, protected by the city#39;s rent-control laws. English is seldom used for business. On an icy winter#39;s day, shoppers stop at stalls selling Chinese delicacies, and cluster in a basement fish and vegetable market.成千上万的工薪阶层家庭仍然居住在唐人街简陋的公寓楼里,由城市租金控制法保护着。(在这里)做生意很少用到英语。在寒冷冬季的一天,顾客们停留在出售中国食品的摊位前,并聚集在一个地下的菜市场。;It#39;s remained a very dynamic immigrant centre for 100 years because it#39;s retained its ability to be an immigrant gateway - a place where new immigrants come in and are able to find housing and job networks,; says Ken Guest, an anthropologist at New York#39;s Baruch College. ;East Broadway is the first stop as people try to figure out how to make their way in the US economy.;“一百年来,这里一直是一个非常有活力的移民中心,因为它保留了它作为一个移民门户的职能,——在这里,新移民进来之后能够找到住房和工作(关系)网。”Ken Guest,纽约巴鲁克学院的人类学家,“在新移民们盘算如何在美国经济体制下获得成功的时候,东百老汇就是第一站。”Services on offer there include immigration agencies, Chinese doctors, herbal shops, lawyers, phone card companies, banks and wire transfer firms.在那里提供的务包括移民代理,中国医生,凉茶店,律师,电话卡公司,和电汇公司。Employment bureaus send people out to jobs in restaurants on Chinese-run bus routes that stretch as far as the Rockies. An estimated 50,000 people are passing through this network at any one time, says Guest.(唐人街的)就业机构把(前来求职的)人分配到绵延落基山脉的华人经营的巴士沿线上的中餐馆去工作。任何时候都有估计50,000人通过这个关系网(找工作),Guest说。It#39;s this community that has preserved Chinatown#39;s special character. The shop signs, the language, the groceries, the aroma of the restaurants are unlike those of any other Manhattan neighborhood. Visitors to Chinatown have entered a subculture.正是这样一个群体保持了唐人街与众不同的特征。店铺招牌、语言、杂货店、餐馆的风味都与任何其他曼哈顿街区有所区别。游客来到唐人街意味着进入了一个亚群体文化氛围。Yet things are changing.然而事情正在发生改变。The report on gentrification, published by the Asian American Legal Defense Fund, finds that from 2000-2010 the share of the Asian population has fallen from 48%-45% in New York#39;s Chinatown, 57%-46% in Boston#39;s, and 49%-30% in Philadephia#39;s, and that the share of the white population rose in all three cities.亚美法律援助基金发布的关于(唐人街)高档化趋势的报告发现,从2000年到2010年,亚裔人数(在各地唐人街总人口中的)比重有所下降,纽约唐人街从48%下降到45%,曼哈顿唐人街从57%下降到46%,费城唐人街从49%下降到30%,与此同时,白人比重在这三城中有所上升。As local government encourages commercial development, low-income families and small businesses have been displaced, the report says.报告称,由于当地政府鼓励商业发展,低收入家庭和小商户已经被移走了。The process is less advanced in New York, says Andrew Leong. But even there high-end stores, non-Asian restaurants and luxury apartment buildings have been sping.在纽约,这一发展进程还没有那么快,Andrew Leong说。但即使在那里,高端商店、非亚裔的餐馆和奢华公寓也呈蔓延趋势。Former garment factories have been converted into expensive lofts and landlords have illegally evicted low-income residents, the study says.研究表明,(这一地区)曾经的成衣工厂已经变成了昂贵的公寓,并且房东们非法驱逐了那些低收入的人群。This story is echoed by Zheng Zhiqin, a campaigner who has noticed growing pressure on low-income tenants, many of them Chinese, over the past 10 years.《中国合伙人》这个故事由郑zhiqin口述而成。这名老兵见了过去十年里低收入租户们越来越重的生活压力,这其中许多都是华人。;They#39;re encouraging people to leave all the time. Sometimes by not providing hot water, or adequate heat, and raising the rents as high as they can,; she says. ;I see this happening all over Chinatown with my neighbours and friends, and in other buildings in the area.;“他们一直想方设法促使人们离开这里,有时候停止供应热水或暖气,或者极尽所能的提高租金,”她说,“我发现居住在唐人街的邻居和朋友们普遍遇到过这种情况,这个地区的其他一些公寓也一样。”Zheng says big celebrations for Chinese festivals allow immigrants to feel ;very much at home; in Chinatown. But this year her landlord, keen to keep the building tidy, asked her for the first time not to hang a traditional bright red scroll from her front door for Chinese New Year.郑说,大型的春节庆祝活动让唐人街的移民们感到如在家般的温暖。但是今年她的房东极力要求保持公寓的整洁,第一次要求她不要在前门贴春联。Increasing numbers of immigrants live outside Chinatown and come in for business during the day, or a weekend shopping trip.越来越多的中国移民不再住在唐人街了,只是在白天来做生意,或者周末来购物。Cynthia Koo, a 26-year-old start-up employee who went to elementary school in Chinatown, says that all but one of her childhood friends have left the neighbourhood. Her mother used to work in the garment industry before its rapid decline in the 1990s and her father manages a Chinatown restaurant that she says now serves non-Chinese communities.26岁的初级雇员Cynthia Koo曾在唐人街读过小学,她说她所有儿时的伙伴中仅剩一人还留在这一街区。她的妈妈曾经在一家成衣制造厂工作,她的爸爸经营了一家唐人街餐馆,20世纪90年代(唐人街)开始迅速衰落,如今餐馆里的顾客不再是中国移民了。;I think it#39;s a little sad,; she says. ;It definitely from my experience feels a lot less lively.;“我觉得这有点难过,”她说,“我深切感觉到(这里)少了许多活力。”But some argue that Chinatown has to adapt in order to survive. Wellington Chen, who runs a community network formed to help the neighbourhood recover after the 9/11 attacks, thinks the focus on gentrification is misplaced.但是一些观点主张唐人街应该适应环境以生存下去。陈Wellington 经营着一家专门用于帮助911袭击后社区恢复的社区网站。他认为只关注高档化问题是一种认知错位。;At the end of the day the narrow splitting of us versus them - the class differentiation, the gender, the race thing - that#39;s nonsense,; he says. ;The best communities, just like the best individuals, are the ones that can adapt to changes very flexibly, nimbly, quickly.;“最终我们之间细小的分化也会使我们之间产生阶级分化、性别、种族之类的东西,这些毫无意义,”他说,“最优秀的群体,就像最优秀的个体一样,能够灵活的机敏的迅速的适应各种改变。”Chen supports Chinatown#39;s Business Improvement District (BID) scheme, which uses levies from local business owners to pay for projects to spruce up the area. Keen to make the area more welcoming to outsiders, Chen would like to see waiters speaking better English and has expressed support for the construction of an eye-catching Chinatown arch.陈持华埠商业发展区(BID)计划,该计划用本地商户的税金付本地区环境改善的费用。陈极力主张使这一区域更好的接纳其他人,他希望务员说着更流利的英文,还有醒目的唐人街牌楼建设能够得到专门的持。It#39;s ideas like this that feed Andrew Leong#39;s fears of an ;exotic playground; for wealthy visitors.正是这种主张使Andrew Leong产生关于迎合富裕游客的“异国情调场所”的忧虑。Some recent research suggests that gentrification can actually benefit an area#39;s original residents. Though vulnerable tenants can be pushed out, those who stay may benefit from improving services and better credit ratings.最近的一些研究提出,真正能从高档化进程中获益的是该地区的原住居民。虽然弱势租户会被迫离开,那些留下的或许可能受益于改善的务和更好的信用评级。But Peter Kwong, a professor at New York#39;s Hunter College, says that while this may apply to struggling communities in areas suffering from industrial decline, it doesn#39;t apply to Chinatown.但纽约亨特学院的教授Peter Kwong却认为,虽然这可能适用于一些因工业衰退的艰苦努力的社区,然而它并不适用于唐人街。That explains local resistance to the BID and to ;rezoning; laws that allow for future property development, he says.他说,这也解释了为什么当地阻挠BID计划和“改划分区”法律,这条法律允许有未来财产的发展。;Manhattan is practically all gentrified - this is one of the last areas,; he says. ;There is a lot of money targeting this area, that would like to see this place [become] a destination for tourism - a quaint place, kind of a hip place for rich people with an ethnic flavour.;“曼哈顿几乎全部高档化了,华埠是最后的几块街区之一,”他说道,“有很多热钱看准这一地区,就是想看看这里变成旅游目的地,一个离奇有趣的地方,那种让有异域民族偏好的富人趋之若鹜的地方。Bonnie Tsui, author of the book American Chinatown, says that when Chinese communities decline ;there is this larger sense of loss of that everyday vibrancy that a neighbourhood like Chinatown has;.《美国唐人街》的作者Bonnie Tsui说过,当华人群体衰落,“对于一个像唐人街那样每天充满活力的街区,就是这种巨大的失落感”。Visitors ;like that concentration, they like that richness of experience, they like that people are speaking in a different language because it feels foreign yet familiar,; she argues. ;They don#39;t really see that in many neighbourhoods any more.;参观者“那么的专心,他们喜欢那样丰富的经历,他们喜欢人们讲着不同的语言,因为这感觉像在外国而又似曾相识,”她解释说,“他们根本无法在众多其他街区看到(像在这里看到的)那样。 /201402/275103

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